I am am an addict.
My addiction began early in life at my mother’s knee and was supported by the American diet.
Bread was my substance of choice – soft squeezable Wonderbread spread with jelly and peanut butter.
My mother didn’t know she was poisoning my siblings and me. As I didn’t know that my homemade whole wheat bread was creating an addiction in my children.
I didn’t know that carbohydrates (CHO) were a non-essential food group. I did know that I felt calmer after eating CHO – the sweeter the better. So did my children.
I remember a time when my daughter declared she was a vegetarian but only ate pasta. No wonder the teenage years were so dramatic. I was living with addicts – myself included..
My medical training included courses in physiology, pathology and nutrition. The courses did not teach the dangers of CHO addiction or it’s side effects. I learned this through personal experience when I began a search for answers to my failing health.
I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes followed a few months later by a heart attack. Although statistics indicated this was a fast growing diagnosis in the USA. It didn’t make sense to me, for me.
I took the prescribed medications and adhered to the ADA diet counseling only to discover that I was getting sicker. When I presented my carefully documented records to my health care providers, I was ignored, prescribed a newer more expensive drug and ultimately blamed for failure to respond due to weight gain.
Finally I began listening to my gut and discovered the Low Carbohydrate High Fat (LCHF) diet presented by a Swedish physician on the Internet (http://www.dietdoctor.com). Within a month of practicing LCHF my blood sugars had returned to normal without medication. My weight had also begun to drop.
My adventure wasn’t over yet. After a few months I noticed my weight wasn’t decreasing and though I didn’t have high blood sugars my hunger had returned. I realized that my feeling of hunger was the result of addiction. Food had become a drug for me. I was eating too much to satisfy a craving within me.
I switched my focus again and was led to new discussions on drug addiction. Johann Hari, the author of ‘ Chasing The Scream: The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs’, presents an enthralling blog post titled “The Likely Cause of Addiction Has Been Discovered, and It Is Not What You Think“. (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000013)
He concludes ‘It is disconnection that drives addiction . . . the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. It is human connection.’
Further investigation of human connection led me to Rick Bateman’s Social Wellness site that explains how to create and nurture social connection (https://socialwellness.wordpress.com/). He offers a theory of ‘Why Social Isolation Makes Us Sick’ using the perspective of a zoologist.
“Following are the first few basic questions a zoo keeper ask:
- Is their diet appropriate?
- Is their physical environment appropriate i.e. is it the right size, temperature . . .
- Are their emotional needs being met i.e. are there things they like to do or need to have? Do they have the right living space?
- Are their social needs being met? Are there others of their own kind they can interact with? “
I am an addict in the process of recovery.
My dietary changes have eliminated my medical diagnosis. Changes in my physical environment – an apartment for my cat and me; my emotional needs for a space of my own surrounded by natural scenery and a supportive communication; and social needs through meet-up groups, blogs and regular weekly contact with friends.
My intention in writing this blog is to share my over 60 year old experiences with the hope that the information will assist you in finding and maintaining your own wellness. It is not meant to prescribe or dictate.
Earlier this week I received a text message from a bank I have a credit card from. The text wanted to know if I had recently charged $2 to my account. I waited until I was no longer driving and textd a reply – NO.
Later a telephone call woke me from my nap. It was the Fraud department. I was still groggy from my nap and didn’t get the young man’s name. I did hear the multiple questions about my identity based on my telephone #s, addresses and travel destination in the past. I did hear the name of my nephew and wondered how a bank knew he was connected to me.
I questioned the caller as to the purpose of my interrogation and was told the bank needed to verify that I was the legal owner of the CC. He than said his department had received an alert when someone tried to charge $2.00 on my CC in California. He didn’t know who had made the charges or where in California the fraud took place.
He did repeatedly assure me that his call was the banks way of protecting me from someone illegally using my CC. He asked if I had any questions.
I was now awake and wondering where the information about my life had come from specifically the name of my nephew. He didn’t answer my question directly but did repeat his ‘we’re protecting you’ mantra.
I pulled rank knowing I was older and wiser. I demanded to know on what authority he had obtained information I had not released to the bank.
He glibly replied that banks have the authority to access private information in order to – you guessed it – protect the customer. In keeping with that duty the bank was going to discontinue my current CC and assign me a new one, which would arrive in a few weeks.
I was stunned and yes angry at being manipulated. My gut feeling was that the bank’s CC system had been hacked and the bank wanted an excuse to reissue mine.
Today at the grocery check out my CC from another bank was denied. I paid with cash and contacted the bank, my regular provider, when I returned home.
I was asked for my telephone PW and then about a purchase I had not made. That was it. No new CC required.
I did inquire about the banks authority to access private information and was told it was not the policy of the bank to do so. They could not speak for other banks.
I will provide direct consumer feed back with the first bank. I am canceling my account.
It rained in the desert the day I took Isis to her doctor. She wasn’t interested in eating or drinking. She did perform her daily ritual of snuggling her body next to mine when I sat or reclined. She continued to offer her furry head to my fingers for scratching. She didn’t complain or demand attention. She was happy to just be with me.
Her doctor examined her blood and diagnosed terminal kidney failure. There was not any procedure or medication to stop the process. She was dying. He suggested we easy her transition. Her eyes told me she was in agreement.
I stroke her soft body. Her breath exhales in a soft growl. She lowers her head onto her paws gazing at me with unconditional love.
Kicking a Bedpost ….
I found this account in my file of medical receipts and was struck by the language of its presentation. It reads like a police report – especially the use of the word ‘accidentally’ – implying no harm was intended.
XR TOE 1ST GREAT TOE LEFT
IMPRESSION: Fracture of the proximal phalanx of the fifth toe as
indicated. No obvious extension to the articular surface.
INDICATION: Left 5th toe pain for 3 days after kicking a bedpost
accidentally. 729.5 Pain in limb.
TECHNIQUE: Three views of the left toe(s) were obtained.
FINDINGS: Oblique nondisplaced fracture of the mid distal portion of the proximal phalanx of the fifth toe. There is no definite extension to the articular surface. This is best seen on the frontal view. There is soft tissue swelling.
No additional fractures.
The bedpost was replaced with prejudice.
The Best Password Security is . . . .
Changing a home location requires organization and a functioning memory of what is packed and where, if things are to be retrieved easily. An additional task has been added to the process with the digital age. The new change of location must be recorded in computer files so your service providers can connect with you.
Each service requires an ID and Password (PW). These identifiers are necessary to update your information.
In the beginning, when personal digital information was forming, the process was simple. Your ID was your name and your Password was an easily remembered group of characters. As time passed, security measured dictated a more complex system. IDs required more than just a name and PWs had to contain specific characters and not be repeated.
I believe by the age of 60 everyone reaches a tipping point where the number of IDs and PWs becomes so vast it feels like an invasion of breeding digital rabbits. The process to retrieve just one ID/PW is time consuming and unique to the attached digital file. There are rules to follow in the name of security. One wrong step and you have to start again from the beginning.
I have spent the last three days on this task. It has taken longer than my actual move including unpacking. My Mac digital files have consumed the greatest amount of time. They have been hanging around for 10 years from the time I purchased my first MAC.
I was told my “Apple ID” would secure everything. I dutifully memorized the ID/PW sequence that allowed me to access the computer and its accompanying software programs. Then came the “iWare” including iClouds to replace the mac.com and mobile.me. iTune access expanded to the iPhone and a list of iDigital devices – all seeming to require a different ID/PW.
Finally, I was unable to use my Apple products because they were protected by ID/PW protocols I could not recall. I was being protected from me!!!
This week I decided to tackle the issue and contacted Apple. I was prepared to pay to unblock my stuff – all my Apple Care programs had expired and were not renewable. I asked for a referral and was given a voice friendly technician who accessed my computer screen like an invisible hand from the ether.
It took several days and shifts of technicians to clear up my tangled trail of ID/PWs. The only cost was time.
Toward the end I began writing down each ID and its associated PW with the date. YES I wrote them down in my private journal without a lock. I no longer care if someone wants to hack my files. I wish them luck. Meanwhile, I get to once again enjoy my digital domain.
I discovered that the best PW security is a forgetful mind.
CAN YOU SPOT THE SCAM?
Last week I decided to begin Spring clearing by selling my Portable Air Conditioners on Craigslist. I was surprised by the immediate responses and looked forward to the cash.
Following are copies of one buyer’s emails.
Hello… I’m so sorry for late response .. I will be buying from you
so please kindly withdraw the advert from Craigslist. i will be
paying via certified check from my Bank it will be delivered to you
via UPS Next Day Air, so I’ll need you to provide me with the
following information to facilitate the mailing of the check…
Full name to be on the payment and full of address with Apt # suite #
including your cell phone,and a firm price.
I will make arrangements for the pick up as soon as you have your
money I am completely satisfied with the advert and the payment will
be delivered via UPS. Thanks
I responded with the requested information and a notice that I would not remove the advertisement until I had received payment.
how are you doing?i will like to let you know that the deal is still
on and the payment would be sent via UPS Service and the item will be
picked up as soon as you receive the payment,and get payment
cashed.Then I will instruct the shipper to get in contact with you for
the pick up schedule time and date.I will like to tell you that i
would be sending an overdraft amount of payment to cover the shipment
of the items bought and other items that am purchasing, Because,i might
not be on hand when the payment arrives,as am going for my business
trips, So as soon as you receive the check have it cashed and remove
your money for the item and send the remaining funds to the shipper
via Western Union or Gram money transfer.My shipper is also picking
some of other items at the same city of ours,that is why you need to
transfer the remaining amount of $$$ to the shipper when you have
receive the payment.you will have to deduct $100 for your running
around that I have caused you during the transaction period.Please let
me know if i can trust you on this so we can move forward from
here.and email you the tracking number of the payment soonest and also
i will like you to remove the advert on CL and also keep other buyer
off,Do get back to me asap.Ok
I was feeling very uncomfortable about being responsible for shipping and emailed the buyer that I would not ship the air conditioner. I also questioned the value of having a tracking # since it does not guarantee payment.
Good News to you that the payment will finally delivered to you and
thank you for your trustworthiness on going transaction …Now that
you have the payment, here is the confirmation # by UPS with the
tracking number(1ZE1W3260177027139).. You will need to deposit the
check at your bank and withdraw the shipper fund and visit the nearest
Wal-mart to you to have the shipping fund wire to the shipper
information below, so as soon as you recieve the payment, follow my
instruction given to you as you will need to deposit the check…You
will deduct the cost of the purchase from the fund..and also deduct
$100 that is to cover the cost of your running around and then have
rest of funds wired to my mover so that they can be able to make the
trip over there for the pick up around later today. Here is the
shipper information to send the money as you will send $1000 by
Moneygram 10mins pickup option and email me the 8 digits reference
number and send the rest $ by Wal-mart to Walmart pickup option and
email me the 9 digits reference number transfer details below……
Prior to opening the above email, I received a certified check from UPS for $2,200.00. This was $2000.00 more than the cost of the air conditioner. Once I read the final email, I knew something was not right but couldn’t figure out what the scam was.
I called a friend who is wise about the ways of the world. She told me it was definitely a scam and to consult Google to determine what the scam was.
I followed her instructions and copied suspicious text from the email. I surrounded the text with quotation marks and pasted into the Google search field. The responses were numerous with many soul-bearing stories of being tricked out of money.
Here’s the scam part. Once you deposit the full check into your checking account it takes a few minutes for the bank to verify. Any money you remove from your bank is your responsibility. If you follow the deposit with a check for $1000.00 you are required to honor your transaction even if the original deposit is proven to be invalid..
There is a saying in TX – Trust your neighbor and brand your cattle.